introducing to his bestfriend..

Posted by cliveeann1001 (295 days ago)

thanks guys for everything. just wanna ask u... do u think my bf is serious with me? well...let's see. my family knew all about the relationship eversince.we regularly call them and chat with them. my 2 kids started calling him daddy even if i didn't teach them neither my parents. he said he really like my kids and i can see that when he does talk to them. i really think he's happy.
and tonight, he's going to introduce me to his bestfriend for 20 years whose on holiday in hk. and he will bring me along everytime they'll go out. seems like he's not ashamed to display me in public more to his closest friend. i do feel important and special and loved. or am i just being f*cking stupid and crazy about the whole thing?

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by Claire (295 days ago)

Yes.

(I am based in Unspecified)

Posted by balzac (295 days ago)

Only time can tell.

So is his best friend married? It is an ego trip to be seen with a younger woman,so it might not be such a big deal introducing you to his bestfriend.

If he tells his female relatives (mom, sisters etc) about you, it would be a bonus.

Anyway, like you said, it's only been 3 months. What's with the rush to have a baby if you're not sure what you are to him.

Could you at least ask him first if he's game for a kid before you decide to do the oops I am pregnant thing.

(I am based in Singapore)

Posted by wotever (295 days ago)

I think ur kids should call him Grandaddy instead of daddy..wot u think?

Agree with Balzac re:the last sentense.

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by cliveeann1001 (295 days ago)

ok...thanks.i know this is really making me googoogaga abt him. well...that's why i need someone to help me analyse things. yeah..grandaddy's more appropriate. gosh.. well.. his bestfriend's happily married. and she's coming with her hubby and daughter. well....duh... im stopping this. im just hoping for the best. thanks.

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by coquinne (294 days ago)

cliveeann1001: my advice to you is go with your feelings if they are real, take your time and while you feel like you are over the moon w/ the whole thing its better to just keep it yourself because sharing it even w/ ur closest friends/ much more in this forum its more likely you'll gonna have more negative advices than positive. W/ my experience when it comes to personal matters I don't need help to analyse things.

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by hee larius (290 days ago)

hmm, is his bestfrined a "girl" :)

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by Pumpkin (290 days ago)

You have introduced him to your kids and you question whether the relationahip is serious. Don't you think its irresponsible to introduce new partners to your children if you are unsure whether the relationship will go the distance...and you even allow them to call him Daddy! Sorry - I'm gobsmacked.

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by AngelinaShum (287 days ago)

I can't see any point that you think you're stupid or crazy. Everything seems so natural. One advice is, "serious relationship" doesn't mean it must be end up forever marraige.

(I am based in Shanghai)

Posted by tigerbay (281 days ago)

OK Guy perspective here.

If a guy is seeing a woman who already has kids then that is a big repsonsibility. Most guys who are not sertious would steer clear of a woman with kids.
If he was not serious he would not introduce you to his best friend. As a friend might say, 'find yourself a woman without the bagggage'.

I dated a woman with three children under the age of 7. This for me was a wonderful cahpter of my life. My male freinds were twlling me think hard. It was my female friends were telling me to run away (which suprised me).

Introducing you to a best freind is seeking thier approval. Yur man has probably spoken to your his best friend about you, a lot. He wants his best friend to meet you. When I said approval, I meant he WANTS his friend to approve. If his friend does not approve it will probably not affect your relationship together, your man will just be dissapointed.

Back to my story. The reason my relationship with the mother of 3 did not work is... she managed to convice herself (or was convinced by her other friends) that there must be something wrong with a man who is willing to take on three kids.
10 years later, I am married and she is still single. We remain good friends.

In short. I think he is genuine. It does not mean he is hearing wedding bells yet though. So take your time.

(I am based in Shanghai)